Archive for January, 2008

Brrr It’s cold in here.. Heating/Air woes.

Rae January 28th, 2008

Since Chelsea was born Chuck and I have realized that there was a humming sound coming from outdoors. We hear it really well when we turn on the baby monitor. So it makes it hard to sleep. This week Chuck and I were brainstorming on what the noise could be. We thought initially that it was our neighbors air conditioner unit. Ours was worked on while I was pregnant so I was sure it couldn’t be ours. Chuck asked if I thought someone might have turned on the water pump to our well. It is on the same side of the house as the noise. When he went to check he realized that it is our outside fan to our heating and air conditioning unit instead of the pump. The darn thing is running none stop even when the air is off. So he flipped the fuse to cut the power off to the fan. Last night it was really cold so since he flipped the breaker we didn’t have any heat. I bundled everyone up really well for the evening. This morning it is still really chilly in here. I have the baby in three layers. Vincent is wearing long sleeves and a jacket and I have on long sleeves. I don’t know if I could tolerate a cold up North style winter now that my body is used to this nice warm environment. Well .. usually warm. Our average is in the upper 70’s. I just checked the weather here and they say it is 46 but feels like 42. I think I might have to cut the fan on long enough to get some warmth going. Chuck is going to look into a fix when he gets time. So for now we will just play it by ear.

Edit to add- The AC man is coming this afternoon to look at the fan. Our Aunt called them.. Thank Goodness! I did turn the heat on to warm the house since Vincent wouldn’t come out of his blanket enough to play. Poor little guy.

Litter Bugs be gone!

Chuck January 27th, 2008

Before I start my ramble, let it be known that I am not a “neat freak” nor someone that feels the need to tell others how to act or live their life (unless it is my own kids or immediate family, where I may have to speak my opinion). I don’t care if you curse, drink, smoke, drool, gamble, preach your religion… just don’t let any of it try to influence people in my family, or our surroundings. So if you haven’t gotten the hint yet, I am pretty care-free to how others decide to live or act… for the most part, as long as it does not impact my well being or my family’s.

One thing I cannot stand, is people that deliberately toss their garbage without any regard to others, the environment or just self image.

Today (Sunday) is one of the days of the week that I can do things that need to be done, such as errands and things with my entire family. We decided to take half the day and do any errands and shopping that needed to be done so we may make it through the next week to payday. It is sometimes difficult running errands and doing “boring” things with 3 kids that get tired of it pretty easily. We try to make things interesting for them so the trips are not so unbearable for both them and us (the adults). Anyways, one of the things placed into the trip was to stop by Mc D’s to get everyone a nice cold drink… something simple, but also something we all enjoy from time to time. While paying for our order, the people in front of us were receiving their items through one side of the vehicle, and in return, they were tossing half empty items out the other side all over the parking lot. I saw that and could only comment to the person collecting our payment “What the hell is their problem? Who would do such a thing? That is just ignorant and rude.” The person at our window said, “Yeah, it’s ok though, they probably know that eventually someone will come through and clean/pick it all up”. I just shook my head and proceeded.

Honestly I was just outraged as a human being, seeing this in front of me. What kind of lesson does that teach my children? And as far as the comment made by the cashier (who of course was just a teen-ager himself), when did something like that just become acceptable and no big deal? If I had to work there, I would be completely pissed if I had to go out there to clean up someones trash… just BECAUSE they felt it was a good place to dispose of all their garbage. Is this REALLY acceptable to most people these days? Am I just getting old!!?? Part of me feels I am just over reacting, because I guess since I don’t work there and I don’t have to clean it up, maybe I should just ignore it. I don’t really feel I want to ignore it though, because what is to stop them from doing it in front of my home? Or down the street and then the wind blows all their crap into my yard, and then it DOES become MY problem just because somebody else was too lazy or just didn’t give a !@#$ where their trash may fly.

I pity those that cannot get off their ass to walk 5 feet to put their trash in a garbage can. I feel for those that are stuck is crappy jobs that have to clean up after all those that feel everyone is beneath them, even if they are just poor ignorant slobs that need a lesson in how to dispose of things properly.

I value my morals, my image as a person and a parent. To me, doing something like that out in the middle of the day, in a public place… where FOOD is served and others are watching is just total lack of everything that makes sense. I do not want my kids to become slobs like that, as I find it as a direct result of MY parenting. But the reality of it is that people doing things like THAT in front of them, may have just as big an influence as Rae’s and my raising them. I think that is the part that bothers me the most.

Children are open to everything that goes on around them. We could train them the best we could in everything, but yet something like what we saw today could make them think, “oh it’s ok, I can toss my trash anywhere and somebody will come clean up after me”. Most kids are used to being lazy like that anyway because mommy and daddy do a lot of the cleaning up after them and depending on the age or how spoiled a child may be, the world does not need future kids all becoming slobs just because it is acceptable by most younger people of the population.

Repeated Words

Rae January 26th, 2008

During the day I find myself repeating the same phrases over and over. I know this is how children learn. I just find it a little funny. I think I need to record them so I can just play them when the time arises. Here is a few of my repeated phrases..

Be nice to your sister/brother.
Gentle.
Don’t drink the water. (bathtime)
Keep the water in the tub. (bathtime)
Remember use your inside voice not outside voice.
Are you done?
Do you need to go potty?
Stay dry.
Becareful the baby is there.
Don’t talk back.
I will get you some more cow in a minute. (cow=milk)
Did you clean your room?
Are you done?
Don’t run in the house.
Please take your dish to the sink.
Don’t hit.
Do you need a time out?
Are you wet?
Shhhh, I just got the baby to sleep.
No .. No movie.
Leave my desk alone.
No cars in bed.
Be Nice.
No screaming.  (Vincent’s favorite way to respond when he doesn’t get his way.)
Brush your hair.
Go Potty! Don’t hold it!
Did you have an accident?
Are you done?
Sit in that chair you are in time out.

I repeat these words at least once a day. Looking at the list I see that I need to try to be more rewarding and less negative. I do say good things when the kids are behaving or when they have done something with out me telling them to or having to ask if they did. I guess it all comes with the job of being a parent. I can see how teaching could really wear out your soul. It is rewarding when we go out as a family and I realize just how well behaved my children are. Then there are days when we are out and I just have to smile at the antics. I would always rather have my hands full then empty.

It’s the Weekend - Sort of

Rae January 25th, 2008

Since before Christmas time Chuck has been working overtime. The office has also mandated that if the workers did not complete 9 hours of overtime during the week that work had to be completed on Saturdays. Of course we prefer voluntary overtime over mandatory. Chuck knew going into working there that there might be times like these. It doesn’t make it any less stressful on the family. As soon as Chuck comes home he is pulled left and right by the rest of us. We all miss him so much. He jokes that maybe he should go back to working 3rd shift. Honestly that isn’t much of an option in my book. Third shift was hard on all of us as well. With my dealing with Post-partum OCD I need him as much if not more then the kids. He has been kind enough to call me during breaks and lunch to help me keep my sanity. He doesn’t know how much this means to me. I don’t care about what we talk about so much as it is just hearing his voice that calms the inner voices. So seeing that it is Friday I wish I could officially call it the weekend. Since Chuck took time off on Monday for my birthday he has to make up his hours tomorrow. We will have to take it in strides. So it’s the weekend - sort of.

For My Husband

Rae January 23rd, 2008

My Dearest Love,

You have brightened my life from the moment you walked into it. I could never have imagined loving someone as much as I love you. We have been through a lot together over the last years. You have always been supportive through it all. Even now with all the craziness in my head you stand beside me and love me. I could not have asked for a better husband or friend. Thank you for making my birthday special. You put put so much effort into making me feel special. I noticed though I did not thank you right then and there. The card you picked out spoke mountains to my heart. As long as we are together I know we can overcome any challenges life throws in our laps. I believe I have come to an important step in my life at this point and I would hope that I could now go forward, so I can be the wife, lover, friend, and companion that you need and deserve. As the years go by, I stop and think about all the memories we’ve made, the good times we’ve shared and the love between us that keeps growing. You are not only my husband, but my best friend and soul mate. You are a blessing from above - one that I do not take for granted. I thank you for all the things that you’ve done for me and the kids. Not only are you a wonderful husband, you’re a terrific father, provider and caregiver. You give so freely to all those you know in such a loving way. Your generosity is inspiring! I love you more than words. I’m forever grateful for your love and proud to be your wife.

I want you to know that every moment we’ve spent together since that first day holds a special place in my heart. I trust you, and I know you’ll be there for me no matter what. I trust that you’ll be faithful to me and that you won’t hurt my heart. You tell me how you want only the best for me. You tell me how beautiful I am. You just make me feel extra special; make me feel a sense of warmth inside. I want you to know that I love you for this! I love you for being so caring and genuine. I love you for everything you’ve done for me. I love you for the happiness and joy you bring to my life. I love you for you! We don’t even need to talk to communicate with each other. By just being together, holding hands, or cuddling, we can sense each other’s thoughts and inner feelings. I want you to know that I want the best for you as well. I want you to succeed and I want all your dreams and fantasies to come true. I know that in me you see a young woman full of kindness, understanding, and compassion. A young woman with an open-heart. A young woman who puts a smile on your face everyday. I will be that woman who’s there for you just as you’re there for me, the one who encourages you through life’s ups and downs. But ultimately, I want to be the woman who is your everything. Not an hour goes by that I don’t think about you. You have brought so much joy to my life and you give me so much to look forward to when I wake up every morning. I want you to know that I sincerely appreciate you and I can never tell you enough that “I LOVE YOU!”

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